Today on this article I would
like to address a topic that I received a lot of questions on it...
and that’s is about how to deal
with negative people...
Now that you should probably
experienced when you spent time with positive, uplift, happy people, u usually
sent to notice that you begin to feel more positive, empower yourself. But when
you spent time with negative people, who always seem to criticize themselves,
it could be difficult to maintain a positive attitude. As Mark Twain said, “Keep
away form people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do
that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. “
So to help you creates a positive
network around yourself that would help you to stay on your track and also
could help you to achieving your goals, I would like to share my tips on how to
remove a bad influence of negative people in your life.
There are two types of negative
people:
1. someone who usually is
pleasant to be around, but due to stress or a bad situation they're going
through, their outlook on life is a bit negative for the time being, like when
we woke up on the wrong side of the bed or when we have a bad day….. And that
is normal.
2. people who are constantly
negative and unpleasant day in and day out. The top of toxic person who always
seems to be complaining about one thing or another. But despite your support,
your encouragement or your advise, they really didn’t do anything to change the
situation (aka THE LOSER).
So, here are 4 steps that you can
follow to make sure you avoid this:
a. Detoxing your life from the influence of
negative people is to identify who these people are. Friends, family member,
co-worker, is there any one on your circle that you feel consistently negative
influence on your life? Write his name down. After that we can go to second
step
b. Do what you can to minimize the amount of
time that you spend with these people. At first you might think that this act a
little bit harsh. But, here’s something important to keep in mind: YOU AND YOU
ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ATTITUDE
AND YOUR ENERGY. If you're not feeling good about yourself or whatever reason,
it's your own responsibility to do something to change that and choosing your
network a little more carefully is one of the bast way that you can do. Now,
one of these negative people happen to be a friend or friend of a friend for
example, it's pretty easy to limit the
amount of time you spent with him/her. But it can be a little tricky to cut 'em
out, if this is happen with one of your family member. One way to minimize the
amount of time that you spend with them is to follow what I call the 80/20
rule. Aim to spend about 80% of your time with positively charge happy
people to actually leave your feeling inspired and empowered and just 20% of
your time with those people that you feel close to you that “negative aura”
could energetically draining you. This
bring you to step 3 which is,
c. Release yourself from feeling
guilty for making this important and powerful choice to spend less time with
them. Rather than feel bad and not being there for others and letting another
down by taking this approach, remember there is up to your to take charge of
your life and your well being. No one else will do it for you. Well, its
compassionate to give your time and your energy for others, keep in mind
that there is nothing enlighten about
throwing yourself under the bus just for the shake of making someone else
better. So be good to yourself.
d. Surround yourself with
positive people who believe in you, support your ambitions and encourage you to
go after what's important to you. Now you may already some of this people in
your life and if you don’t, do what you can to make them. Accept invitation to go
out to new places while you might make new positively charge people, encourage
people to improve their confidence or speaking ability and etc. surrounding
yourself with positive support people
system of people who truly want to prosper and succeed is vital/part of
for your success when you countering any big and excited goal that you may
accept for yourself, and I know it crucial for me.
courtesy of apiz.nk
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